Seven 9s and 10s

David Bazan Band - Live on KEXP

Hi, internet. I kind of a had a miserable day.

The morning sucked for a variety of reasons. Just a bunch of general emotional weight on my shoulders.

The afternoon was spent in a high school auditorium full of crying students and staff as I supported a video stream of the funeral of a student who recently lost his battle with cancer. So that was… not fun.

Then I came straight home and received a phone call from my dad (who is on his yearly migration to Florida, until March) and he wanted to know how I was feeling and we talked about the hockey season that is about to begin and then I hung up and burst into tears because goddamn, even though he is 76 and strong like bull… he’s 76. I kind of hate that he spends over two months of every year away from home, but I very much hate that I don’t spend enough time with him when he IS home, and that’s entirely my own fault. I’m just a tiny bit afraid of dying, but I’m very afraid of losing the people I love.

Then I watched this Bazan video and cried some more because those songs mean way too much to me and speak to me far too deeply for a narrative that is purely fictional. Also, I can’t help but feel bubbles of depression rise up through me when I see musicians making a living from doing what the love - what I love. Where did I go wrong that I didn’t end up there too? Yeah, “it’s never too late” blah blah blah, right; I know. I get it. Shit. I think I’d be happy doing pretty much any job that went into the making of that video - from being the musician or recording the audio/video or asking the questions.

Now it’s only 7:21pm on Thursday and I’m not tired enough to sleep but I certainly don’t feel like being awake. I’ll just do what I always do and pick up my guitar and see what happens. Lately, more often than not, it’s not much.

Truthful Tuesday

I had my eighth therapy session yesterday. I left without scheduling another. I’m not sure it has helped me much. One of my primary goals certainly didn’t see any progress, though I really don’t blame myself, because I’ve lived most of 2012 in an environment in which that goal was put to the test on an almost a daily basis.

Maybe this therapist just isn’t the right fit for me. Maybe I’m too stubborn to make the changes that are necessary for progress and growth. Maybe change is happening and I just can’t see it yet. All I know for sure is that there are still several times each day when I think about the choices I’ve made in the past few months and I question almost all of them.

What do I want? What do I need? Are they the same thing? Can they be?

Truthful Tuesday

  • Yesterday started alright but by the end of the workday my brain had pretty much drained its cache of optimism and positivity.
  • I need something to look forward to between now and May 31st.
  • This afternoon I’ll have my fourth therapy session. I suppose it’s going pretty well, though I don’t know how one is supposed to judge such a thing. I leave each session with a clearer mind and a mental list of items that I want to address with people, but I’m finding it difficult to actually cross any items off that list.
  • I am searching for more things to write here, yet coming up empty. So, I guess this is all for now.

Truthful Tuesday

It’s amazing to me that another week has passed, because there are multiple times each day when I become so entwined in my own thoughts that minutes feel like hours and I beg the earth to rotate more quickly.
 

Edited to add: After thinking about it for a few hours, I guess the above statement might come across as a bit melodramatic, but when I’m actually experiencing those moments it doesn’t seem that way at all.

Truthful Tuesday

  • I really do not like feeling this unstable.
  • I’m starting to think that I’m not very good at reading people.
  • If I keep gnawing away at my thumbs at my current pace, they’ll be gone within a few days.
  • 3 months removed from my tonsillectomy and I still haven’t regained any of the 20 pounds that I lost - not for a lack of trying.
  • I’m spending a lot of time trying to figure out what my value is - to specific people and to the universe in general.
  • I need more laughter in my life if only for the fact that it’s a good distraction, regardless of how temporary it may be.
  • My calendar suggests I have a lot to look forward to in the next 3 months, but I’m having a difficult time convincing my brain to look past the next 30 seconds.
  • I would say “I need a vacation!" but I’m definitely not in the mental state where I’d actually be capable of relaxing and enjoying it.

Truthful Tuesday

  • I am really struggling lately, emotionally.
  • A lot of the people I care about are also having a difficult time.
  • Not being able to make them feel better only adds to my sadness.
  • Sometimes I just need a shoulder to cry on and a chance to clear my mind to a sympathetic ear.
  • I don’t enjoy burdening my friends with my own inability to cope with the voices in my head, and so…
  • For the first time in my life I am seriously considering seeing a therapist.
  • Maybe it will be good. Maybe it will be bad. We’ll see.

Truthful Tuesday

Almost every time I have a truly great day/night/weekend, I fall into a pretty substantial depression in the following days. It’s bad enough to make me consider avoiding enjoyable experiences altogether - the logic being that without the high there may not come the low.

Friday night was no exception; it was one of the best nights of my life and it saw me achieve one of my biggest goals since moving into this house. Now that it’s over, I’m struggling to find anything that is worth looking forward to.

I used to have a coworker that I really liked a lot but now she is dead to me because she sent me to the craigslist posting for this beagle/pointer mix named Patch.

I want a dog. I really really really want a dog. And Patch looks pretty much ideal.  But, I just can’t have a dog in my life right now because I know I don’t have the time to commit to a pet, especially a very young, not-neutered, beagle-mix.  Maybe if I was living with someone that could share the responsibility, then I’d be able to give it more serious consideration, but that’s not the situation.  I hope whomever adopts Patch gives him the best life any dog could ever hope for.

And so, I used to have a coworker that I really liked a lot, but now she’s dead to me.

High-res GPOYW
I’ve been spending a lot of time feeling ways about things lately. Mostly sad ways about things. It feels like many things in my life are failing. But I just walked outside and the sky was on fire with a beautiful sunset and I turned and looked at my house and thought about just how much work I’ve done to the place over the past 11 months and I guess, overall, I’ve got plenty to feel happy about. It’s just that all the things that are sad-making are very important to me.
The problem is that 65% happy is still 35% sad. I want to be 100% happy. I need to figure out how to get there.

GPOYW

I’ve been spending a lot of time feeling ways about things lately. Mostly sad ways about things. It feels like many things in my life are failing. But I just walked outside and the sky was on fire with a beautiful sunset and I turned and looked at my house and thought about just how much work I’ve done to the place over the past 11 months and I guess, overall, I’ve got plenty to feel happy about. It’s just that all the things that are sad-making are very important to me.

The problem is that 65% happy is still 35% sad. I want to be 100% happy. I need to figure out how to get there.